Displaced Homemakers

A woman who, after managing a household for years, is forced by financial necessity to find a wage-paying job. This blog is intended for the women who feel that their lives have been hit by a tornado, their tomorrows may experience a hurricane and their nights are sleepless. This blog is for the women who need to rebuild their lives, no matter the age and no matter the circumstance and for the women who needs to find resources, gather support to feel that they are not alone.
Showing posts with label growth and healing. Show all posts
Showing posts with label growth and healing. Show all posts

Friday, January 20, 2012

This Menace Killed 50% of Rats Tested – But It’s Hiding in Your Water, Air and Food

I believe that displaced homemakers need to remain informed and educated regarding food health concerns.  I preach that a life balance of mental, physical and health are important factors in healing, moving forward and keeping the train on the track as our lives change.  This article and a few more that I will post are in regards to food safety, food security, and our health.  I am keenly aware that it costs more to chose and eat foods that are "healthy", i.e., those without GMO's (Genetically Modified Ingredients).  However, it is well worth the 1 dollar to 2 dollar difference in costs in the long run.  For yourself and your children.  Our bodies are delicate and it is a must that we take care of them, some of us know that as we grow older, how we age and feel reflects directly on how we took care of ourselves when we were younger.  For this reason, I include articles like these.
Monsanto, the world leader in the production of genetically engineered (GE) staple crops, has long claimed that its broad-spectrum herbicide Roundup is safe.  In fact, they have even used the following slogans to describe it:
“It’s Safer than Mowing”
“Biodegradable”
“Environmentally Friendly”
What we are now finding out — unfortunately long after hundreds of millions of pounds of the chemical have already been applied to U.S. soil — is that Roundup is proving to be a pervasive environmental threat, one that may already be poisoning a good portion of the world’s remaining natural water supply.
Roundup is Contaminating Groundwater Supplies
The quantity of glyphosate, the active ingredient in Roundup, in the environment has been difficult to analyze due to its physicochemical properties, such as its relatively low molecular weight and low organic solvent solubility.
However, a recent study used a magnetic particle immunoassay to test for the presence of glyphosate in roughly 140 samples of groundwater from Catalonia, Spain.
The analysis found that glyphosate was present above the limit of quantification in 41 percent of the samples.  As noted on GreenMedInfo.com, this indicates “that, despite manufacturer’s claims, it does not break down rapidly in the environment, and is accumulating there in concerning quantities.”
Groundwater, which is water from rain, lakes, streams or other bodies of water that soaks into soil and bedrock, can easily become contaminated when chemicals in the soil with low biodegradability and high mobility empty into it.
When groundwater is used as a drinking water source, this contamination poses a risk to animals, plants and humans alike. The U.S. Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) explains further:
“Contaminated groundwater can hurt animals, plants, or humans only if it is first removed from the ground by manmade or natural processes. In many parts of the world, groundwater is pumped out of the ground so it can be used as a source of water for drinking, bathing, other household uses, agriculture, and industry. In addition, groundwater can reach the surface through natural pathways such as springs.
Contaminated groundwater can affect the quality of drinking and other types of water supplies when it reaches the surface. Contaminated groundwater can affect the health of animals and humans when they drink or bathe in water contaminated by the groundwater or when they eat organisms that have themselves been affected by groundwater contamination.”
That glyphosate has been detected beyond the limit of quantification in 41 percent of groundwater samples tested reveals yet another concerning “side effect” of its rampant use: namely, that it is not biodegrading in the soil, as previously assumed by many scientists, rather, is trickling down below the soil to the groundwater, where processes of biodegradation are much slower, and the opportunity for it to accumulate to toxic levels is much greater. These findings have devastating environmental and human health implications, as glyphosate is the most widely used herbicide in the world and is being found virtually everywhere it has been tested…
Glyphosate is Also Found in Air and Rain Samples
The results of the first report on the ambient levels of glyphosate and its major degradation product, aminomethylphosphonic acid (AMPA) in air and rain water were published in the journal Environmental Toxicology and Chemistry in March 2011. The samples were collected during two growing seasons in Mississippi and Iowa. Glyphosate was detected in 60 to 100 percent of all air and rain samples, which lends further credence to the fact that Roundup does not readily break down in the environment, but rather is lingering all around us.
Unfortunately, thus far the United States has chosen to ignore the warning signs and allows the deceitful marketing and unabated use of glyphosate herbicides like Roundup. On a brighter note, the EPA is finally looking into the damaging effects of glyphosate on humans and the environment and plans to make a decision regarding its future by 2015. At that time, Roundup could either continue to be used as it is now, be required to have some modifications to its use or be banned entirely from use within the United States.
Read the full post at Mercola.com.
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Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Easy Greens Recipe 30 minutes


Susan Brannon
 Easy Greens (30 Min)

1 tablespoon olive oil
2 heads of broccoli, cut up into pieces
1 large or 2 small zucchini, sliced
1 clove of garlic, minced
2 cups organic vegetable or chicken broth
Sea salt and pepper to taste

Directions:
1. Heat the olive oil in a large pan - the larger the better, and the pan should have a lid. Set heat to between medium and high, but closer to medium.
2. Add the broccoli to the pan and stir fry for a minute. Add the vegetable or chicken broth and garlic. Cover the pan. Once the broth comes to a boil, turn the heat down to low and let simmer.
3. Stir occasionally.
4. Wait for the broccoli to turn a bright green color, then wait a couple of more minutes so that it develops a little bit of tenderness. Then add the zucchini.
5. Add sea salt and pepper to taste. But be careful if you happen to use broth that is salted - if so, you might only need a small pinch of salt, if any.
6. Once the zucchini and broccoli are tender, the dish is ready to eat with your favorite whole grain dish, or even with a side of eggs, beans, or lentils.

Please note: There should always be a little bit of the broth at the bottom of the pan.
Don't cover it again, even after you've cooked it, otherwise it will continue cooking from the residual heat and the vegetables will turn color.
You can also Bok Choy to this and it is great!

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Monday, July 25, 2011

Reading the ingredients

Susan Brannon
24 July 2011
I started a petition asking for the labeling of GMO food products and I need thousands of signatures.  In the meantime, we can know the brands that have GMO ingredients, we can buy products labeled Non-GMO, and purchase 100% organic, or, grow our own food.

As it stands, the FDA is governed by the Food, Drug and  Cosmetic Act which is only concerned with food "additives" or food products that are considered "GRAS" meaning, generally recognized as safe.

The FDA believes that non GMO foods and GMO food products are equal and not subject to labeling.  I understand that the cost of labeling and creating a new "regulation" to do such would require some Federal funding.  However, our health is important as well, or shall I say our nations health.

Yet, in 2000 an international trade agreement was established and more than 130 countries signed for the labeling of GMO food products. That was 10 years ago and counting.  This agreement gives the countries the right to decide for themselves and the risks involved to reject GMO foods.  So far, Europe has followed in the embargo of GM foods, but the citizens continue to fight when a threat of allowing production in Europe arises.

In the end, it is us, the consumer, that will be the final voice.  We must chose to purchase only non GMO foods, ban the brands that use GM ingredients, and through the pocket our voice will be strong and clear.  It is call consumer demand.

Remember, when the consumers started to demand organic foods?  It was difficult to find the foods and much more expensive.  You had to go to specialty stores and read the labels very carefully.  I now see organic foods in the grocery store chains, not a lot but some.  The demand for healthier foods is getting stronger and the result is that the producers will need to meet those demands if they want to stay in business.
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Sunday, July 24, 2011

Crime against Humanity; GMO Foods

 Susan Brannon
23 July 2011
There are records in history of crimes against humanity that are justified by governments and commercial interests.  Citizens protest, ask for social justice but the requests remain ignored by the corporations and government leaders for their own profit.

Today, GMO food production is used in the name for the benefit of society, the poor and impoverished nations.  But in fact the story of humanity is unjustified and has caused a monopoly on the raw and biological materials.  The farmers have become dependent on one major corporation for their seeds and have banished the natural cycle of renewable seeds.

There are estimates of 30,000 products on our grocery stores shelves, which are "modified" "genetically improved" and most of the products contain soy, a product to start with was "naturally" healthy and good for our bodies.  More than 1/2 of America's soy crop is genetically modified.

There are over 40 plant varieties of GMO products that have cleared the federal requirements for commercialization.  (USDA)

Some of the modifications may include drugs added into the foods that produce human vaccines against diseases such as Hepatitis B in bananas.
or engineered fish that mature at a faster rate, or fruit and nut trees that yield a year sooner than normal.

Not only is the growth of GMO foods threatening our society, but the government is willing to accept these products to be sold and used by newborns.

Here is a small list:

Enfamil Infant Formulas
(Mead Johnson)
# Enfamil with Iron
# Enfamil Low Iron
# Enfamil A.R.
# Enfamil Nutramigen
# Enfamil Lacto Free
# Enfamil 22
# Enfamil Next step (soy and milk-based varieties)
# Enfamil Pro-Soybee

Isomil Infant Formulas
(Abbot Labs)
# Isomil Soy
# Isomil Soy for Diarrhea

Similac
(Abbot Labs)
# Similac Lactose Free
# Similac with Iron
# Similac Low Iron
# Similac Alimentum

Now if this is not a crime against humanity, I do not know what is.
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Friday, June 10, 2011

Bathroom Grand Pile' 1st Position Exercise

Susan Brannon
Now that you have worked on the first position, demi- plie’.  I will show you how to do the 1st position Grand plie’!  The Grand plie’ is almost like the 1st demi-plie’ but you go down a bit further!

It is rather simple, but for balance, and to strengthen your arms you should to use your arms as in the picture above.  With this exercise, I will add arm instructions to the plie’.

1)    Stand up straight and firm, with your legs together, butt tucked in, arms at your side, head up, back straight, facing forward, then point your toes outwards in a V position and keep your heels together. (First position) Keep your weight at the balls of your feet.
2)    Slowly bend your knees keeping your knees over your toes and push your thighs out and your eyes forward once you start to pass the “demi” position, start to slowly lift your heels at the speed of your movement, look down at your toes, you should not be able to see them, for they should be blocked by your knees. (Your knees should be aligned between your second and third toes)  Remember to keep your buttocks tucked, back straight, facing forward and hips squared in front of you!
3)    As you go down slowly lift your arms up to your side then to your front, with your palms facing each other.  Create movement like they are wings connected from your shoulder blades.  Doing this correctly can give you the beautiful ballerina back!
4)    Once you are down, your heels should be off the floor, arms in front of you, hips faced forward, back straight, and knees aligned correctly.  Hold for a few seconds,
5)    Slowly stand up, moving your arms back to your sides like a butterfly, keeping your legs at the V position, and stand up straight.
6)    Repeat 10 times!
Hints:
•    Imagine that your hip bones are headlights, they should always be level with each other and shine straight ahead.
•    Use the abdominals to shift the pelvis to this position, tilted neither forward nor backwards.
•    Look sideways in the mirror and go through each position, to make sure that you have a straight line, from your neck to your butt.

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Tuesday, May 24, 2011

More Summer Fitness Tips For your Arms!



25 May, 2011 -  So, you work everyday, and stare at a computer!  Earlier I gave some tips on toning your buttocks, upper thighs and hips that fit in your tight schedule.  Here are more tips to do while at work sitting at a desk!

Toning your Arms:

To get rid of that “flabby” part on the underside of your arms, this exercise improves your posture and exercises your lungs while sitting on your desk!  (The photo shows the person standing up, but you can also do this sitting down)

1)            Sit up straight (you should be doing this all of the time while working!) Face forward, chest up and neck straight with your arms outstretched at the sides.
2)             Inhale deeply while stretching your arms as far out as possible without tensing your neck.
3)            Hold the pose for and breath for 5 seconds.
4)            Exhale
5)            Repeat 3 times.
6)            In the same position, clench your fists.
7)            Rotate your arms in a forward motion 5 times while drawing in a long interrupted breath.
8)            Exhale.
9)            Repeat 3 times!

Variations:  You can hold water bottles in your hands while doing the first part of this exercise while breathing, but set them down while clenching your fists!  You can start with small water bottles (of course, filled with water!) and expand to larger ones when you feel that you are ready.  Tip* Drink the water when you are finished!

You can also rotate your arms both forward first and then backwards, if you do this you will be adding another routine to the above.

These exercises are for the women in the world who have no time to stay in shape!

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Monday, May 23, 2011

3 Secrets: Strengthen and shape your calves!


This is another exercise that you can do while you are waiting or standing around to shape up for the summer.

1)  Find a curb or stair.
2)  Stand on the curb or stair with your toes on the stair to the balls of your feet and your heels off of the stair.
3)  Now, stand up on your toes (keep your back straight!) and go down with your heels below the stair height.
4)  Go slowly, and keep your balance, and repeat 20 times!
5)  You can increase your reps as needed.

These exercises are for the women in the world who have no time to stay in shape!

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3 Secrets for Shaping up for the Summer! (In two posts!)


23 May 2011 -Summer is arriving and most of us look in the mirror when try on a new swimsuit and think, “Wow! I have fat here and cellulite there that I did not have last year.  How can I get rid of this stuff before I have to walk around in a swimsuit?”

Believe me, I know how that feels.  It seems that the older I get, the more my body changes and my bumps are in areas that are difficult to control.  In addition, most of us work hard every day and do not have the time or money to go to the gym or take a long awaited Yoga class.

I have discovered a few tricks to help get my body back in shape without costing a penny and I can do this without taking up my precious time.  (However, I must add, that taking care of yourself, is precious and that time in reality is worth it!) I also have maintained this habit, not only for the summer season, but all year long.

Tighten your buttocks, hips and rear upper thighs!
1)  In the morning after washing your face, use whatever routine you use normally.  If it is putting on your creams and make-up, then brushing your teeth (for 2 minutes!) Do squats! 
2)  Okay, I know that you are supposed to put your arms out in front of you…but after you have practiced doing squats for a bit, you will know how to keep your balance.
3)  Squat up and down while brushing your teeth for 2minutes!
4)  Squat up and down while rubbing your glorious face cream!
5)  Squat up and down while you are waiting for the water to get hot!

Do this in the morning and at night.

Firm your buttocks, thighs, belly!

While you are standing around waiting for someone, just about doing nothing but staring at the air in front of you, you can do an exercise that no one will know you are doing. 

1)  Stand with good posture, back straight like you are pulling your shoulder blades together, head straight and your belly tucked in. 
2)  Imagine that you are squeezing a penny between your buttocks!
3)  Squeeze and release, squeeze and release.
4)  While you squeeze, feel the tension in your upper thighs, tighten your buttocks and your upper thighs.  Repeat for as long as you want.  Go for 100 reps!
5) Do this exercise a few times a day during a “down” and waiting moment!

Hint:  You may want to have your back to a wall, or wear your long sweater, coat, or shirt!  Just look around and make sure that no one can see you flexing your muscles!

In the end, (pun) you will feel your buttock, upper thighs and abdomen working!

These exercises are for the women in the world who have no time to stay in shape!

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How to do Squats the Right Way!





May 23, 2011- Squats help firm your touché, your hips and upper rear thighs.
You will feel the squats at first, so you will want to start with a few, and then increase them as you continue.  You will always want to feel some response from your body, or you are not doing enough, or the right way. 

1.)  Stand with feet hip distance apart with your toes, knees and hips in a straight line.

2.)  Lift up your arms straight in front of you and do not bend your arms.  Point your palms downwards and move your hands hooking them together, with one hand over the other with your thumbs intertwined.

3.)  Now, Concentrate on your belly button and put it towards your spine. This will naturally tighten your butt muscles! Remember to keep your shoulders straight and pulled back!

4.)  Keep your feet flat on the floor and lift your toes upwards and start going down like your are going to sit in a chair and slowly lower your body while keeping your toes up and your arms out and your knees in line with your toes!  It takes concentration at first and you will feel it, but its worth it!

5.)  Go down until you are at a 90 degree angle in alignment with your knees. Keep your toes up! You will feel like your butt is sticking out and it is!  This is okay and the right position to be in.  Don’t forget to pull your belly button towards your spine.  Look at your toes and make sure that your knees are BEHIND your toes.

6.) Now start to stand up keeping your toes up and your weight on your heels.
  
7.) Keep your knees slightly bent at you stand, do not let your knees go straight.

8.) Repeat the steps 10 times to start out and don’t push yourself.  

9.) Rest for 30 to 60 seconds, and repeat 10 times again!

Once your body gets used to it, you can increase the reps to 15!

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Tuesday, February 15, 2011

Senergy a way to solve life problems in 3 steps

I found this really good article from Monergy  it might be helpful

Just to be clear, this blog post will show you how to solve any life problem in three steps; but they are not necessarily three EASY steps, nor is this a method that is guaranteed to occur quickly. How much time it will take is up to you, and the type of energy that is applied to the problem.
Step 1- Refrain from the activity or relationship causing you distress.
This first step may be the most obvious, but is often the most difficult to do. That’s because the first step involves identifying what the problem causing issues are, and then requires that you take action. Most people can identify the source of their problems in some fashion, but it is often inertia that must be overcome to start the process that solves what is wrong. If we are in a bad relationship, or we dislike our job, the first step would involve disengaging from that relationship or job. If we are unemployed, or don’t feel we have sufficient funds at our disposal, the first step might be to engage in activities that will bring us more money, and to look at unproductive time as something we need to let go of. As usual, the key here is energy, and at each step we want to tune into a better and more effective energy. All the tools we need, such as sincerity, good effort, generosity, no expectations, taking advantage of what is available, etc., should be employed here to maximize effectiveness.
Step 2- Release the energy of the activity/relationship.
Once we have succeeded in actually disengaging from that relationship or activity, we need to make a conscious effort to release the energy that we have absorbed from the time spent in that relationship or job. Many methods exist for this release, but each individual should choose what works best. It could be increased exercise, starting a program of regular meditation, learning a new language, taking a short or extended trip. The important thing is these activities are designed to let go of the energy associated with what we have already stopped, whether it’s a relationship or job related activity.
Step3- Rebalance your energy to impose safeguards against repetition/falling back.
Everything is a process, and getting yourself out of a bad relationship or job/financial situation is no exception. Repeated efforts are necessary to establish new energy patterns, Like every other process, rebalancing your energy takes sustained efforts, and may include
temporary setbacks; don’t worry, it is perfectly normal. To the extent that you have spent sufficient time in the two preceding steps, this rebalancing will be so affected. When rebalancing is clearly working or nearly complete, expect to feel periods of intense calm and happiness: you are emerging from that black hole!
Each of us is constantly engaged in the above three steps on such a wide variety of issues.
In order to maintain some degree of happiness these days, it is so important to use these mechanisms to “clean sweep” our energy field.

Healing Yourself

I want to share some of the observations I have made on how the workplace and relationships that has caused such unnecessary emotional suffering and yes actual physical illness; and I also want to suggest some ways to cope with all of this.
If there is anything I have learned about human beings and energy, it is this:

We are like sponges in that we absorb whatever energy is around us; this is why we have to be so careful what and who we surround ourselves with.

If you don’t yet buy this, just think about that friend of yours(we all have them) who thinks he or she is stupid because that’s what they were told their whole life: they are really some of the most intelligent people you or I have met. And remember this: as much as anyone tries, it is impossible to separate or compartmentalize your life so that your business life doesn’t affect your personal life; energy cannot be limited like that.
When we are young and fresh out of school, we don’t always think we can pick and choose our first job because the “energy feels right.” More often than not, we have financial and personal constraints(family obligations, school loans, car loans, etc) that dictate our choices. So for most of us, at one time or another, we are going to be exposed to a brutal form of energy in the workplace that could and does wreak havoc with our minds and bodies. When we have these experiences, we absorb this energy with different effects on our emotional/physical bodies. As a result, a certain amount of pain accompanied by a variety of “dis-eases” may occur.
People talk about genetic pre-disposition to certain diseases: I don’t buy it- I have a different take on things: I think that whether or not we actually develop a particular “dis-ease” is (of course based upon energy absorption), and is more a factor of affinity, proximity, and frequency of association. That means that the value system and energy of the people we are closest to at work and home could be getting us sick, and we may not be consciously aware of it at all. In fact, some people develop “sympathetic dis-eases” that mirror the dis-eases of those they are close to. Also, there is almost always a certain emotional disharmony or imbalance in which “dis-eases” flourish. I truly believe that if someone is extremely strong, emotionally balanced,, and most importantly very aware, even faced with a torrent of sustained unhealthy energy , dis-ease need not occur.
We now live in a society in which each of us is never too far removed from either our own stresses or dis-eases, or those of our friends and loved ones. As I see it, there are three ways to deal with these life issues:

  1. Medicate the pain away(the choice of increasing numbers of people)
  2. Dull the pain with alcohol, drugs, overeating(and other distractions)
  3. Find ways to identify and release the pain.
As you might have guessed, I favor choice number three. Choices one and two will never rid you of the underlying problem: they are temporary fixes. Choice number three is of course the most difficult, because it requires something in ever diminishing supply: honest self-reflection- and I mean really honest self-reflection. This may mean facing it squarely and digging deeply until you find the center, or the cause of this “dis-ease.” No easy task for sure, but definitely worth the effort.
Here’s how I see it: if there is any sense of entitlement in this life, this is it: Everyone has the right(and I think personal obligation too) to release the energy that may be causing a particular “dis-ease;” there is no reason on earth why anyone needs to walk around being controlled by past traumatic events, no matter how horrible. Release is available to each of us, but remember that releasing or letting go of these things is a process, just like anything else. And of course, everyone needs to find the perfect vehicle that accomplishes this release.

Problem solving option 2

Here are some steps towards solving problems, however to solve each problem may take time depending on the problem.  Be patient and follow each step through no matter how long it takes.  If there are many issues on the table, list the issues and pick the most important one first.  Once you follow the steps, you will see the results and reward yourself with that milkshake, or a hike to celebrate!  As you spend the energy to solve each problem, you will feel relief and better about yourself.  I feel that it is always important to reflect in our lives the things we want or need to change.  The reality is that things never remain the same, and growth is good!

Here is one of many possible models of problem solving.

  1. Problem identification What is my concern?
  2. Goal definition What do I want to achieve or change?
  3. Brainstorming What can I do?
  4. Consequences What might happen?
  5. Decision How should I do it?
  6. Implementation Do it!
  7. Evaluation Did it work? 
The steps are defined in more detail, remember to take your time!

1. Problem identification
Try to give a precise description of your problems. You should try to focus on behaviours or skill deficits.
2. Goal definition
You should try to set a precise goal of your efforts. This should be a realistic aim of improvement (not "I want to feel better"). Ask yourself: "What do I want to change or achieve right now?"
3. Brainstorming / Generation of alternatives.
Try to think of all possible ways to achieve your goal. Think of successful ways of solving problems or achieving your goals in the past. Use your creativity and do not restrict yourself in any way. Even nonsensical or unusual ways might be worth to consider.
Write all alternatives on a blank sheet of paper!
4. Consider all consequences.
Now it is time to think about the positive or negative consequences of all possible alternatives. Think about any outcome or difficulties of your approaches.
This step can be split into substeps:
  1. What are the advantages? It is better to look at the advantages before looking at the disadvantages, since if you start looking at the disadvantages you may get so dissillusioned that you cannot think of any advantages.
  2. Whare are the risks, what care is needed, what problems can occur?
  3. How do you intuitively feel about the alternatives?
5. Make your choice of one possible alternative!
It is important to make a clear choice and define a time limit for an attempt to reach your goal.
6. Do it (Implementation of your decision)
Do not worry about being successful. Just do it and see what happens...
7. Evaluation

Changing behavior

If you want to change your behavior or a bad habit, like find a better job, or change your relations with people, it might be helpful to divide them into smaller objectives.  Start with one that comes first then set new objectives.  There is no need to make a list of objectives first.

Every objective must be clearly defined; e.g., if you want to reduce your weight, you may begin by deciding to take more exercise, but this is not all clearly defined.  It would be better to say that you intend to walk or cycle for 30 minutes each day.

Don't strive for perfection, instead of 30 minutes each day, decide to walk/cycle 30 minutes 5 days a week.  This leaves you room to achieve your goal.

If you want to make a big change, divide your objectives into a series of small goals or sub-goals.  This creates a step by step process towards obtaining your larger goal.  For example, your home is not organized and you want to re-organize your home.  Start with 30 minutes each day or 5 days a week with one room at a time.  Or you can decide to clean one room at a time on each Saturday when you have more time to complete your task.

Make your goals reasonable, do not create a goal that would be unrealistic and not obtainable.
There is never any hurry to make these changes, if you are working on the change, then you are already in the process of creating the change!

It is important to balance your life, instead of adding more stress into your life by creating unreasonable tasks.

Sunday, April 25, 2010

Steps Towards Discovering Your Vocation Step 6

Now that you have discovered your personality trait and matched some recommended careers, it is time to research your recommended careers.
      But before you launch on a career search, take out your list of needs and wants.
  • Cross out the not really needed needs
  • and review the wants
  • Put dollar signs next to the ones that cost something
  • Enter the steps needed to reach your goal:  for example you entered I want to loose weight:
    • start exercising
    • exercise 30 minutes each day/walking, bike riding, jogging, yoga etc... (exercise need not to cost you any money!)
    • Eat healthier foods
    • Stop eating ice cream and chocolates
    • Drink more water
Do these steps with every want and need.  Now take the ones with dollar amounts and create a budget on another paper listing your needs:
  • Rent/mortage
  • Utilities
  • Car payment
  • Insurance (broken down, health, auto etc)
  • Child care
  • Medicine
  • Clothing
  • Food
  • Gas
  • Credit cards (if any...we will talk about that later)  For credit cards, add more than your minimum payment.  
     Now take these amounts and add them up, this is what you need to take home each month, remember that number and start on the path for a new career search!
Career Research
     I found a couple of good sites that give you an idea of the lifestyle, average pay and recommended experience or education is needed:
    One of the great sites is the U.S. Office of Bureau of Labor and Statistics  This site gives you just about everything that you want to know, but you will find yourself pressing link after link and filtering the technical lingo to find your answers.  It may be worth the effort during your research.  Here are some helpful BLS links:
Occupational Outlook Handbook This is the place where you can search for an occupation and find out
  • the training and education needed
  • earnings
  • expected job prospects
  • what workers do on the job
  • working conditions
The front page will provide you with instructions on how to use the online handbook, enter your job preference in the search box. I found the "search box" difficult to find here is the link: OOH Search Box  The dweeb that I am, I actually love this site!  It gives you the future outlook, how the competation is for the position, wages, by area, full time, part time, your education needs for example, I entered Reporter, and was taken to a page of choices, I chose News Analysts they gave a brief summary followed by a detailed description.
  • Competition will be keen for jobs at large metropolitan and national newspapers, broadcast stations, and magazines; small publications and broadcast stations and online newspapers and magazines should provide the best opportunities.
  • Most employers prefer individuals with a bachelor's degree in journalism or mass communications and experience gained at school newspapers or broadcasting stations or through internships with news organizations.
  • Jobs often involve long, irregular hours and pressure to meet deadlines.
Once you have spent some time getting an idea of what you would like to do, what seems reasonable and doable, write down your career choices, maybe copy and paste, or print the careers that you are considering.  I would advise bookmarking the website for future reference.
  • Narrow down your choices, in doing so, consider:
    • Does the pay match my needs?
    • Is it realistic?
    • Is it doable?
    • Do I really have a passion, does my heart soar with the thought of this work?
    • Do I have the time that it takes to prepare?
    • Do i live in the right place for this position?
    • Does the income meet my needs?
     If you are having a difficult time deciding on a group of similar and related careers, monster.com has a nice resource for career mapping.  You start on a given career and they will show you related careers that you may not have considered or known about.  If something catches your eye, look that one up too! Just a side note:  don't get sidetracked!  It is easy to go from one place on the internet to another and bring yourself in circles, wasting your time....STAY FOCUSED!
     Once you have written your desired careers, you can use the monster mapping site to quickly see what is out there.  It is important to stick your feet in the water and understand the real market for your career.  Read some of the jobs that are offered (there are easy links on the map) and see what type of experience they are looking for.  It may prove that you will need to spend some time towards developing your career, gaining more experience, gathering education, or starting as a volunteer to start getting your foot in the door.
     But do not fret.  You are only looking into your options for the moment and giving yourself some things to think about and consider!

Steps Towards Discovering Your Vocation Step 5

Below is a list of attributes on a separate page in your journal and write down the ones that most suit you and add others that come to your mind.  This is just to get your mind going and observing yourself based on the steps you have taken previously.

*  Value tradition, security, and peaceful living
    * Will work long and hard to fulfill duties
    * Can be depended on to follow through on tasks
    * Loyal and faithful
Profound respect for facts and concrete information
    * Make decisions objectively, applying logic and rational thinking
    * Dislike change, unless they are shown it's benefit in a concrete way
Hard-working and dependable
    * Athletic and wholesome
    * Have a clear set of standards and beliefs which they live by
Highly observant and aware of people's feelings and reactions
    * Excellent memory for details which are important to them
    * Very in-tune with their surroundings - excellent sense of space and function
Take their responsibilities seriously
·      Extremely uncomfortable with conflict and confrontation
Enjoy creating order, structure and schedules
    * Enjoy interacting with people
    * Warm-hearted and sympathetic
#  Live in the present moment
# Are stimulated and excited by new experiences
#  Driven to turn theories into plans
# Highly value knowledge
# Future-oriented
#  Flexible and Diverse
# Excellent communication skills
# Enjoy debating issues with other people
You may already see some types or groups that are related to each other.  Ask yourself, do you seem like a nurturer, a performer,  a scientist, an artist or a doer?

Now go to this weblink:  Personality Page and explore to find your closest personality type to explore careers that closely fit who you are!
     Write it all down in your journal.
     *Note:  If you are inclined to search the web for other personality/career tests. Be aware that many of the online test only give you a glimpse into the results and then they want to get paid!  There are not many online resources that are free it seems that everyone is trying to find a way to make a dollar and that is understandable, so before you spend time taking tests, research the site to make sure you know what you are getting into.  Otherwise you may be wasting a lot of your own time.


Steps Towards Discovering Your Vocation: Step 4

Now that you have been journalizing and making lists for a while, it is time to re-read your lists:
What your attractions are, your limits, negative traits and thoughts, what you want and what you need.
  • Read them and observe if the items still pertains to how you felt when you made the lists. It may have been some time and attitudes change, feelings change and situations change.
  • Cross out the items that do not seem to reflect who you are, keep the ones that you know are true.

Steps Towards Discovering Your Vocation Step 3

As you move along these steps, keep the previous steps in your mind and add items to your lists as they come along. 
  • Now reflect on your positive traits, your thinking, actions, and attributes.  Write them down on a new page in your journal, titled positive traits.
  • Start another page and list your wants.  They can be anything, you want a different car, you want new sheets for your bed, you want to have more time for yourself, you want to go out to dinner once a week etc..
  • Again, start another page but this time, write down your needs.  Ask yourself if these items are really your needs or your wants.  Your needs is something like, a babysitter for my child if I am to get a job and work, money to pay the electric and utility bills, I bed to sleep in...etc.
Take your time with these lists, give yourself a week to reflect on them so your list reflects who you really are and your reality.

Friday, April 23, 2010

Steps Towards Discovering Your Vocation: Step 2

Negative Traits
Start a new page in your journal and title it Negative Traits.  You will be going back and adding to this page as you go along.
  • Write down your negative traits that limit your life.
    • As you go about your day, observe your negative thoughts and actions that may limit your personal growth or block your movements.
    • As you find answers add them to your list and do not worry about what you can do about them yet.
This process may take some time, but do not worry about it. Don't fret about your negative traits, just simply observe them and write them down on your list as they are revealed to you.  Later you will come back to them and start to cross them off your list while you develop new thoughts!  I must mention that while writing down negative traits may leave us feeling a bit "hopeless" and in despair.  Just remember, these traits can be overcome in time and every single human being that walks and breathes upon this earth has something to deal with and you are not alone, strange, weird, or incapable of growth.  Growth is what life is all about.  My mother is 94 years old with a sharp mind, and she is still learning and growing!  What excitement it is for us to have the ability to improve our lives and grow forever learning and taking steps towards personal enhancement!

Steps Towards Discovering Your Vocation: Step 1

Finding your place in the world is not a simple task.  I believe finding your place requires a balance in your lifestyle.  You first must be able to think clearly, not to panic or limit the world around you.  You must be physically healthy, or feel the best that you possibly can, you must be able to be honest with yourself and not limit your thoughts and your importance to what you have to offer others, you also must get plenty of rest, eat healthy foods and spend alone time with yourself.  The process of discovering your vocation may take some time and it is important that you are patient with yourself.  Do not pressure yourself with time limits because starting a new career and moving through a life changing transition is not a rapid task.  Being an older displaced homemaker, makes this even more difficult because we can feel the "clock ticking" and time moving.  We realize that we have lived most of our lives and now we have entered into another stage or season of life.  We are not in our 20's or 30's anymore and there is not much room for errors nor is there any room for making additional changes in the future.  This is why it is important to remain patient with your thoughts and yourself before making big changes.  It is important to have the feeling of inner peace before making that big step.
     Life is never sure, as we have learned from our past experiences, the economy of today, and the increased natural disasters that seems to be taking place.  As we get older, we tend to feel our own vulnerability in life we feel a bit more fragile.
     I have listed a few steps to take you towards your journey of discovering your vocation.  We all know that we need to survive and earn an income so this journey is one that is necessary for the woman who suddenly finds themselves alone and in the midst of changes that we did not expect.
  • First, start a daily journal.  Purchase a blank notebook and start in that.  Write in it every day.  Find a time in your day that you will not be disturbed and you can write.  If you are super busy, buy a small notebook to put into your purse so you can quickly jot down thoughts and ideas as your day passes by you.  Be faithful with this, you will find that the journal will become your best friend.  Do not worry about what you say nor limit your thoughts.  This is your free flowing moment, say anything without limitations.
  • Throughout the day, start observing yourself as if from the outsiders perspective.  This is not easy to do, but notice how you communicate with others, what makes you smile, what makes you happy.  For example:
    • When you go into a book store, what subjects are you drawn to?  Remember them, write them down.
    • When you rent a movie or go to the theater, what are you drawn to?  Why?  Write it down.
    • When you are engaged in conversations with others, what topics do you tend to gravitate towards with others?  Do those topics hold your attention and you can go on for hours talking about them, or do you become rather bored and tend to cut them short?  Write down the topics that seem to be common in your social life.  write them down.
Do not worry about the time here, just be patient and honest.  If you are not honest, you are only cheating yourself.  Remember, it is for yourself that you do this and you are very important.  You do not need to impress anyone, listen to anyone or decide that you "should" be interested in this or that.  Find the freedom to have the ability to be who you are, different an unique from any other.
     Follow these steps for long enough to gather some answers, it may take you days or weeks or months do not limit yourself.
      Now that you have spent time in knowing who you are, observed yourself and stated your traits and desires.  Sit down and read over your interest list.  Cross off the items that do not seem to really pertain to who you really are.  You may have listed 5 or 6 or maybe 10 different areas of interest. Now number the ones that are left from the most important to the least important. For example, you like home decorating, animals, nature, cooking, science, medicine, and music.
Look for the items that really make you soar inside when you read the list number that item 1 and so on.
     Put your list aside in your journal and start another page following the suggestions in Step 2:  Negative Traits

Thursday, April 22, 2010

Self-Care Tips

On your journey towards wholeness, it is important to take care of yourself.  Taking care of yourself will help you to think more clearly, feel better about who you are, and have more energy. A daily routine, eat healthy foods and get plenty of rest are the calling cards for taking care of yourself. In addition, take care of your teeth, your hair, and your body.  Wear colors that appeal to you and your skin color.  Add accents to your furnishings to create a stimulating environment for yourself.  Make new friends and find people who you can share your life experiences with, your changes and growth.  You need to bring things into your life that bring you pleasure and fun, find things that you connect with and things that make you laugh and smile.  A nourished self creates a complete self!

Below are some examples of things that you can do to help you grow!
Physical
  • Take a walk
  • Ride a bike
  • Soak in a hot bath with candles and music
  • Exercise at the gym
  • stretch and move or dance to music
  • Sit in the sun for 15 minutes
  • Change one thing to improve your diet
  • Watch and listen to birds in nature
  • Go swimming
  • Sit in the garden or a park
  • Take a nap
  • Get a message
  • Eat totally healthy for one day
Emotional
  • Breath deep and think, "I am calm, I feel peace"
  • Share feelings with a friend
  • Sing
  • Hug someone and ask for a hug
  • Pretend that you are talking to someone and they are facing you in an empty chair.
  • Notice what you are feeling twice in one day.
  • Write a letter to someone who has hurt you, but do not give it to them.  Forgive them in your heart and burn or bury it.
  • Notice your fear and take a step to face it
  • Smile at a stranger
  • List your accomplishments and post it on your bathroom mirror.
Mental
  • Read a book or magazine
  • Start writing in a journal, don't think about what you are saying.  Just say it!
  • Make a to do list, and post it on your fridge, cross items off when you have completed them!
  • Challenge yourself to write a poem
  • Make of list of things that you want to improve your life with.  Write sub headings on steps you can take to accomplish your goals.
  • Write down negative beliefs that limit your life.  Notice that limitation each day for a week until you have overcome it, then move on to the next one!  Give yourself time.
  • List your traits (be honest)
  • List your needs (your real needs)
  • Lists your wants (without limitations)
  • Make a list of short term and long term goals
  • Review you day when you wake up and review your day before you sleep.
Spiritual
  • Connect with nature
  • Meditate for 5-15 minutes each day.  Focus on your breathing, feel the ground below you, where your legs meet the ground, listen to the sounds around you.  Don't worry about "blanking your mind" just learn to focus on your now while you stay quiet for a few moments each day.
  • Volunteer in your community
  • Get a book and learn about a religion different than your own.
  • Practice forgiveness, even if you have to forgive over and over and over again.
  • Give yourself quiet time every single day.  Time for yourself, time to think and feel outside of the world's hustle and bustle.